Long Distance Relationship to me sounds like someone just said that they want to set out on Mission Impossible. But if we see the positive side, Nathan actually completed the Missions. So now the point of focus comes to why there is a huge failure rate when it comes to long distance relationships and what can be done to fix this.
Mentality and Mindset
I know people who have lasted the long tenure of wait. What makes their relationships last while the others don’t. If Long Distance Relationships didn’t work, none should have, but if some do, what is it that they do differently. I asked one of my friends who got married after 13 years of Long Distance Relationship and he casually replied I won’t find a girl like her. It’s just that simple. We need to know where our focus is and keep that in mind. That’s all.
Persistence and Perseverance
Long Distance Relationship requires hard work just like any other relationship. In fact they require more because both are far from each other. Let’s try something different now. What if, both plan vacations together, go somewhere far, somewhere romantic or just visit each other and see each other’s city. It just takes a person to be more persistent to make it work. Like my friend who takes every opportunity to visit his girl, now wife. He leaves every weekend to visit her but he can do that because it would take him about half a day to reach there and he could be back by the week day for work. Doesn’t need to be the ideal case but you can definitely work something out; all you need to keep in mind is that you want to do it.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going. So as hardships increase, so must the efforts. It’s not necessary that you need to keep in touch everyday or call each other ten times a day or text each other to show that you’re making efforts. Neither does it mean expensive dates and lavish vacations. It just means to take that extra effort to ensure that you understand each other whether that means talking once a day or once a week. You need to be available for your partner and keep them at the top of your priority list.
Do not cheat. It’s just as simple as that. Do not cheat on your partner. Do not lie or hide things from them. If they understand you, they will also understand that you’re far and alone, that you need friends and you tend to spend more time them as they’re near and demand your presence more often.
Relationships are all about trust and honesty, if you’re true and your conscience is clear, you’re bound to be happier in your relationship and distance will be only just a number.
Facts For A Long Distance Relationship
We need to cent percent positive during the course of our long distance. It’s not going to last forever and when it ends there shall be a happily ever after. Of course, an empty mind is a devil’s workshop so bad thoughts do occur. He didn’t pick your call. She didn’t reply to your message. It’s natural; we are human, after all. But consistent checks and doubts can cause some real trouble. They can not only create differences but also completely spoil the relationship, even to the extent of ruining all the good memories and moments.
Enjoy every moment
Enjoy every moment as it comes because this is the testing time, this is the time when either you shall leave bitter words and memories or you shall create the happiest love story. It doesn’t need to be a Disney fairytale to be special; you need to believe that it special. Celebrate the moments you spent together and away as these will make the best chapters of your story, or should I say Love Story.